How to use your pain to create massive change.
There was a period in my life when I thought it was all over.
I messed up so badly that I didn’t think recovery was an option. I was 24, broke, jobless, and I had just totaled my car in a brutal roll over accident. Alcohol was involved, which in Canada is a life-changing offense (rightfully so).
I felt worthless as a human.
I tell this story in detail here, so I won’t rehash the finer points.
At the time, this felt like the worst thing to ever happen to me.
Actually, it was. At the same time, it was the best thing to ever happen to me.
I was comfortable up until this period in my life. There was no pressing reason to change a thing.
Comfort is the enemy of progress.
My level of comfort changed in an instant. I woke up with no job, no money, and feeling lower than dirt. This was my situation that spawned massive action.
We’ve all experienced painful points in our life. While we view these low points as ‘bad’, they don’t deserve that label.
Becoming who you want to become depends on these painful periods in your life.
In that sense, no situation is good or bad. Both experiences serve a purpose, and they're both necessary.
The comfortable periods are beautiful and should be enjoyed. They also promote stagnation.
The painful points are difficult, but are the only way to create massive change in your life.
When you aren’t sure how you can go on living the way things are, personal progress becomes a point of survival.
This pain is what causes you to flip the switch and make massive changes to your life.
It also causes you to realize that no one is going to create this change for you. You're completely responsible for how things turn out.
Listen, the world is full of tragedy. The evil in the world has a bigger platform than ever.
But Bernie isn't going to save you. Your mayor isn’t going to save you.
The only person who can save you is you.
It took me a little while to realize this after crashing my car. I was stagnant and in a state of barely surviving for about a year before I realized no one was coming to pull me out. While I did have some family support, no one could change my life but me.
A funny thing happens when you're in pain and realize you’re the only one with the power to change it.
The excuses you used to rely on so heavily evaporate into thin air.
The reasons you used to come up with for why you can’t work on yourself jump out the window.
It’s time to survive.
Once you prove to yourself that you can survive, you begin to thrive.
Once you see yourself thrive, you begin to see the limit you placed on possibility for what it has been all along.
For me, it started with my physical body.
When I flipped that switch and dedicated myself to making myself better, it began with the gym.
I rededicated myself to my workouts and got leaner and stronger.
I began waking up at 4 a.m. so I would have time to walk and listen to audio books before work.
I started studying psychology, and began a meditation practice.
These new activities provided the foundation for my future. I knew to have a better life, I had to be better as a person.
If you want to change your life, you need to change yourself. Improve your life by improving yourself.
Maybe you’re going through a low and painful point in our life right now. You may not see any way this could benefit you.
While this period of time may be painful, it will change you in ways you can’t imagine right now.
This may be the reason why you create the life you want, and build yourself to be who you want to be.
Embrace this struggle. You’re being refined.
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